If you’re like most people, being in a relationship is extremely exciting at the beginning. But keeping it that way is what the vast majority of people come to struggle with at some point, but don’t worry, it is totally normal that this can happen. As a certified Romantic Relationship graduate, I am giving you the top 11 life changing tips to avoid falling in a boring relationship.
You are going to learn about all the signs of a boring relationship, all the reasons why you may feel bored in your relationship, all the things you can do to fix it, and more.
After learning about this life changing tips you’re gonna be a pro and really prepared when it comes to knowing how to keep the relationship exciting and alive.
This post is all about the best ways to keep your relationship from getting boring that every person in a relationship should know about.
Signs of a Boring Relationship
Being bored in a relationship is something that it’s not pleasant for any of the 2 members. This has to do with one of the 2 or both not having satisfied both phycological needs, refuge & desire. But I’m not gonna get into that. Let’s look at some of the most common signs in relationship that show that one or both people are bored:
- Loss of Interest – You’re not interested on what is going on in your partners life
- The routine has become not interesting anymore
- You don’t talk like you use to
- You feel distance with your partner
- Times where you have fun are rare
- The relationship feels kinda dead
Reasons Why The Relationship Became Boring
When a relationship becomes boring, it might have taken you by surprise. Most couples don’t even notices when they have fallen in this state. It may 
seem that it was out of nowhere, but nothing is out of nowhere. There is always a logical explanation to why this happened in the first place.
A relationship is a living being, it needs to be fed to be kept alive. It can’t be alive if you take the maintenance away from it. Think about a cat for example, if you don’t give water and food to your cat he will be weaker, he will lose energy and he will eventually die if you don’t give him those things.
We see the clear contradiction with the cat example, because is more concrete, if I don’t feed him he doesn’t live, but is harder to see the same contradiction in more abstract topics, but it’s impossible to keep the relationship alive if I don’t feed it. And some of the most common reasons why a relationship becomes Boring are the following:
- One or Both gave The Relationship for Granted
- Vices are being practiced and Not Virtues
- One or Both Stopped Putting Effort Into The Relationship
- Activities, talks and quality time are not being practiced anymore
- One or Both Stopped Investing Into Themselves
- New Ideas, plans or goals are not being set
If you’re more interested on what each of this reasons mean more in depth make sure to check this article.
7 Life-Changing Anti Boring-Relationship Hacks
Now lets dive into the hacks to make your relationship more interesting and better!
1. Do More Surprises for each other
Unexpected things is an element of being desirable. Being predictable is an important thing, but sometimes being very spontaneous is something 
amazing. It’s always very nice to receive a surprise from someone you care about. It tells you that they thought about you and is one of the best ways to make someone feel special. If you’re like most people you probably really like pleasant surprises. Here are some ideas on things you can do to surprise your partner:
- Bring them coffee/tea/their favorite beverage
- Show up unexpectedly with a little gift
- Make a surprise party for him/her
- Randomly leave them cute notes
- Plan a surprise date and take them out of nowhere to it
- Buy tickets for a concert of their favorite artist
This are just some ideas that you can grab as inspiration, the more personalized you make it, the better. Make sure to remember to always make it about them, and if there’s a thing that both love to do and you could make a surprise out of it, that’s even better.
2. Don’t Give the Relationship for Granted
If you are like most people, after being in a relationship for a while, it’s easy to fall in this trap. Because it starts to feel like that person is always going to be there. This thought can sound very romantic but it has a dangerous side when because of it you start to take less care of that person. Start by giving your partner more importance than what you were giving him/her. This may feel dumb but I promise you that the more you value that person, the better care you’re going to take care of him/her.
Be aware that in reality, you can lose your partner any day. They are free people and can decide to be with you or not, you can only invite them to be with you by the way you treat them and care for them. Don’t fall in the trap of thinking they will always be there no matter how you treat them. They could always be free to leave, but you will make it very undesirable for that person to leave. Because you’d be too good to live without. That way we can guarantee in the best way that they won’t leave.
3. Always Put Effort Into The Relationship
This means to be rational. To be virtuous. A simple way to put it, is that you will really take care of how you treat them. Make sure you’re making time for them, that you’re trying to connect with each other, and that you are thinking of how to make the other one happy. Little details can mean a lot. So don’t get lost thinking about big things to do for her or him, little things will do more than enough.
4. Invest in Yourselves
One of the best ways to keep a relationship exciting is by constantly bringing new knowledge to it. Read a book, listen to a podcast, get enrolled in a course. Learn more about what you’re already interested in and share that with your partner, it’s very likely that it will make the relationship more dynamic and interesting. And also you’ll get to become more knowledgeable ;).
Make sure that you enjoy learning about the topic, if the way you talk to your partner about it is with passion, it can impact the relationship in a much better way.
5. Get some New Energies from Friends, Family & Other Activities
Giving yourselves time to be a part, it’s okay. This can be very beneficial, let’s go back to the example of the cat. Think about it like going to the store to buy the food to feed your cat. You’re buying stories to come back to share with your partner. As a result, it will bring life to the relationship. Stories are interesting, that’s why it makes the relationship more exciting. It doesn’t have to be something super out of the ordinary, just get some air with other people or activities.
6. Work on Mental Connection
One of the most attractive aspect of a person can be physical, but never underestimate the mental one. The Mental Connection in a couple can make the relationship super exciting, and is one of the best feelings to have. If you’ve ever experienced it you’ll know what I’m talking about. Sadly in most couples this mental connection tends to die in time, and normally what’s behind it deep down, is the belief “I already know everything about him/her”.
At the beginning of anyone’s relationship people actually believe they don’t know each other, but as they grow closer and get to know each other more throughout the years, it can be easy to think that you already know everything about her/him. This is a lie. You never stop getting to know your person. You may know each other more, but never completely. Go back to believe that there are things that you still don’t know about, that curiosity can be very beneficial to establish that mental connection aguen.
7. Make New Routines
It’s always a good idea to get things mixed up a little bit. If your routine is exactly the same all the time, it can become monotonous. Move things around a little bit. If you go for dinner at the same restaurant all the time, try a new restaurant! Get in some type of classes together, go to the gym, go for walks, plan to go on new trips, help each other to reach his/her dreams! And help them get there in whatever possible ways.
This post was all about the best life changing hacks to make your relationship less boring and more exciting so that you can be as prepared as possible if you ever come to struggle with boredom in a relationship.
