If you were trying to talk to a girl, or you had a fight with your girlfriend and she suddenly blocks you might feel trapped and with no hope for her to unblock you. However the usual case is that this tends to be in an emotional moment. As a Romantic Relationship Diploma graduate, I’m going to help you go through this problem and find the best possible solutions.
The first key thing to keep in mind if a girl blocked you, is to not keep pushing. She is in her right of blocking you if she doesn’t want to talk to you. Doing this at first is key since it won’t make it worse for sure, and you’ll have all the best possible chances for it to get better.
After going through this guide you’re going to be more relaxed and super prepared for the future if this ever happens aguen and will be a pro on knowing how to deal with it if it happened to you right now. If she’s someone you really care about, this guide is something you can’t miss out on.
This post is all about the 5 steps to take if a girl blocks you that everyone in a relationship or trying to be in one should know about.
1. Understand Emotions: Don’t Push, Just Wait and Let it Cool Off
The first thing to do is to do nothing. If a girl blocked you there’s mainly 2 possible options. 1 she was really emotional, 2 she doesn’t
want anything to do with you and she has moved on. If the answer is the and one there might not be much that can be done. But first
let’s talk about the 1st option and see what we can do about it.
When someone is very emotional they tend to take irrational actions based on emotions, which when the emotion lowers they more than normally regret doing. Take a look to the next exhibit (A).
Exhibit A:
As you can notice, there’s a high probability that she will block you when the emotion gets really high in intensity. But it comes down in time, this can help you be less anxious if she’s someone that you care about and blocked you. Because is likely that when the emotion comes down, she’ll unblock you.
2. Look for the Stimuli that caused her to block you
This means, look for the reason why she blocked you.
When someone gets really emotional, there’s always a stimuli that created that emotion. This could have been a lot of different things. You trying to talk to her when she didn’t really want to, being pushy, or doing something that was annoying to her.
An Stimuli is any type of interaction someone has with the world, it could be anywhere from you getting a gift from someone, to getting yelled at, or being told something that scared you.
This step is very important so that you can identify what got her really angry, and so you can avoid doing that in the future.
3. Give Her Time
As you can see in Exhibit (A), there’s a high chance of taking emotionally based actions when the emotion intensity is high. This is the moments when she will most likely block you. But when the emotion comes down, there’s a high probability that she will regret the actions previously taken on emotions.
One of the most important characteristics of emotions is that they come and go, they are temporary. This means, that when time passes by, if you are someone that she cares about, she will most likely unblock you. There’s a very high chance of this happening if you have been someone close to her that she has cared about.
So just wait, give her a day or two, and wait to see if she’ll unblock you on her own. This will help you to not fall in an irrational dynamic.
4. Try Approaching her in a Kind Way
We want to generate in her a positive emotional response to your actions. That’s why it’s key to apply some kindness specially to the next interaction you try to have with her. If her decision was emotional, she will most likely feel different about you than what she did before. We want to use this in our advantage to incentivize a positive responser from her side. Something very important to keep in mind and evaluate before apologizing, is to identify if you did do something wrong. If so, apologize kindly, and if not, give her more time.
If she hasn’t unblock you by this time, and you do need to apologize, you can try the next things:
- Send her a Hand-Written Apology letter for any inconvenience you may have caused – Tell her that you will respect it if she doesn’t want to have contact with you anymore because she’s a very respectable person. You have to be aware that you actually need to stop contacting her if this is what she wants. You’re not trying to lie to her at all. Be honest, nice and respectful.
- Send Her Flowers – You can check options here.
- Send Her a well written Email apologizing for any inconvenience and letting her know you wouldn’t like to lose contact but you’ll respect it 100% if that’s what she wants
Whatever it is, always be thinking about your goal with it, and act according to that. Make clear that you have identified what thing (stimuli) made her angry, and you will give priority to avoid doing that in the future so that she doesn’t go through it anymore.
5. Evaluate If There’s Anything Else for you to Do
Sometimes, you might need to do extra actions if what you did to cause her block you was really wrong. This is okay, because the situation deserves a better apology. Nevertheless, is very important to have clear if there’s anything else that you did wrong.
If you can’t find anything, then you need to proceed to the next phase. You need to evaluate if she’s trying to manipulate you, or if she really just doesn’t want you anymore in her life.
If she doesn’t want you to be in her life, then it’s time to accept it, and move on. If you don’t accept it, then accept that you don’t want to accept it. This is a starting point and will help you strengthen your self esteem.
If she’s trying to manipulate you, then wait until she reaches back to you if you already did what’s on your side to do. Show that you are totally OK waiting all the time necessary, and that you are not scared if she doesn’t. This will help to solve the manipulation.
What does it mean when a Girl Blocks you?
If a girl blocked you, it could mean a variety of thins. Here are some of the most common reasons:
- She’s looking for attention
- She took her anger out that way
- She doesn’t want you to see her Social Media
- She’s trying to manipulate you
- She really doesn’t want you to be a part of her life anymore
Should I contact a girl who blocked me?
If you were blocked by a girl and are wondering if you should contact her the short answer is: absolutely no in the short term, and probably yes in the long-term. Give her a day or two, and if she doesn’t reach out, you can try to nicely contact her depending on the context.
What is the phycology behind blocking someone?
When someone blocks a person, they’re sending an indirect message that says “I don’t want you in my life”. This could be to indirectly tell themselves that they’re more valuable than the person they just blocked. It could be related to low self esteem. Because it could lead to making a person feel superior, in an imaginary sense, unless the person they blocked really deserved to be blocked (some kind of spammer, abuser, stalker, etc). Usually if there’s no real reason, the person might have low self-esteem.
Is Blocking someone bad?
Someone might feel guilt when blocking someone, nevertheless there are cases were it’s absolutely the right thing to do to block someone. This depends on the context, if it’s someone spamming, stalking or abusing then it’s the right thing to do. If the person is someone that you care about, you shouldn’t block them because they’re a value to you.
This post was all about what to do if a girl blocks you, so that you could be as prepared as possible if this ever happens to you.
